One of our favorite shows is MTV’s The Challenge. In case you don’t know, the show is about a group of people who live in a house together and try to win a million dollars by doing challenges. The challenges range from eating a bull’s testicles to jumping out of a plane while trying to remember a code. The cast is made up of people from various reality television shows. Since I love this genre of programming, the show is perfect for me.
Like every other Wednesday night, we watched the show and I went to bed. That night I had a dream that I was flirting with one of the show’s cast members, Leroy Garrett. Look him up. I’ve got a type, people. When my husband woke up, I told him about it. He laughed and shook his head.
Yes, it was a dream. That’s probably not as juicy as you wanted it to be but I’m not a creative writer, so I don’t know what to tell you.
Flirting with other men is not a regular occurrence for me, but whenever I get a DM on Instagram, I tell my husband. Usually, it’s about my “pretty face” and how the person would love to talk to me more. Before I delete and/or block this person, I tell my husband. We have a good laugh, and move on.
This kind of communication is key for my marriage to thrive
I talk to a lot of guys that I know only from being online. There are many that I talk to regularly and joke back and forth with. The other day I asked my husband if he was OK with me talking to other guys online as friends. His response was, “well yeah, you kind of have to if you are in that situation.” The situation being someone who shares in the alcohol-free Instagram community. He’s right.
My marriage has never lacked in the communication department. For me, it comes naturally. I have a hard time keeping something from my husband. I’m lucky if I can keep it a secret long enough to actually plan a surprise for him. He’s the first person I text when something silly happens or if I have had a bad day. He’s my best friend.
You don’t have to be best friends with your partner to have a good relationship, but that’s what works for our marriage. It’s always been easy for us. Good communication builds trust. We talk openly about things good or bad, and we work through them when we need to. Keeping things in secret would harm the relationship. Nothing good would come from it. There is temptation everywhere. If more secrets are kept, it would be easier to go down the wrong path.
I know I’m lucky to be in such a great marriage, and I know not all people are so lucky. The good news is, communication is something you can work on. If you’re struggling with it, see if a marriage counselor will help. I haven’t had a personal experience with one but I know that it can help to talk to someone. Whatever happens, try to have open conversations with your partner, ask questions, or talk about your days. The more you work at it, the easier it will be.